I try to be compassionate, caring, and bite my tongue, but unfortunately, my heart breaks at times and the only thing I can do to help heal it is get some words off of my chest.
I am not claiming that individuals in this world are acting out of malice or hatred.. I think it's more of a lack of not thinking before speaking.
Hearing the doctor speak the words 'Your child is on the Autism spectrum' is a difficult thing to choke down, especially initially, even if you have already noticed certain signs..
Love, support, and kindness.. All of that works together to help our family push forward and do what is best for our child.. Even when we are struggling emotionally with the situation.
What doesn't help?
Reading article after article that individuals send us or share about how vaccinations cause Autism. Let me humor all of you for about a minute and let's say 'Sure, Vaccinations cause Autism' (even though the 'doctor' that made these claims in 1998 has been stripped of his medical license for making assumptions and causing panic)... Why on earth would you share this kind of information with a parent that is struggling emotionally at the time anyways? We received a great deal of information at our first evalution.. One of those packets pertained to vaccinations, so I assure you.. Our child's doctors and psychologists are doing their job informing us.
As if we are not already dealing with enough emotions and feelings during this process, why not add guilt to the mixture? As if we already don't have enough on our plate, how about you add your 'here's something you haven't thought of, but I know all about it' to it too.
I rarely post blogs in this nature. Usually they are faith-filled and encouraging, but sometimes even the momma that thinks she's a tiny bit strong gets frustrated.
This isn't a blog to debate vaccinations because, quite frankly, to each his own. I don't share my opinion on the matter and I would prefer if others didn't share theirs with me as well :) The purpose of this blog is to share one thought: Please be mindful of the things you share with us and the words you speak. You can build someone up with your words (written and spoken) and you can tear someone down. When someone is going through a difficult time, please choose words of life and encouragement.... Not words of shame, guilt, and haughtiness.
We receive a great deal of information.. From many sources.. Many studies.. Many thoughts from doctors, psychologist, neurologists, and more. They are helping us navigate this new journey. We receive support, love, and kindness from our friends and family. They are also helping us navigate this new journey.
I say all of this to say... Please think before speaking.
Once again, I am not saying we choose not to be informed or that we are blind to the discussions in the world today. I am strictly saying that this is a difficult time for all of us right now and words of encouragement, love, support, and empowerment will go a lot further than words spoken out of passive-aggressiveness or Internet research.
I love all of you and I appreciate your prayers so much. I wouldn't feel half as strong as I do today without all of you and I am sure our three-year old wouldn't be doing as amazing as she is with our 'exercises' without the prayers of good people.
I hope you all have an amazing week!
God bless!
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